Omg yes! The big thing in my house was that boys could do no wrong. Meaning if they did something wrong, it wasn't their fault - their behavior "can't be helped." They're "weaker" so the woman is always at fault, regardless of what's happened to her. It's disgusting.
Ooh, girl! Lots to unpack here. Thank you for sharing this.
Hindsight has shown me how, especially in those authoritarian areas, women tend to serve as the enforcers for the patriarchy. Their tools include ...
Gossip. Shunning (and I've never lived among the Amish). "Act like a lady." "You'd should fix up more." "Boys don't like smart girls."
Omg yes! The big thing in my house was that boys could do no wrong. Meaning if they did something wrong, it wasn't their fault - their behavior "can't be helped." They're "weaker" so the woman is always at fault, regardless of what's happened to her. It's disgusting.